BRENT STOLLER

Writer. Advice giver. Peanut butter and chocolate enthusiast.

I’m Trying to Build an Audience, But I’m Doing It All Wrong

“I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it.”

At the top of each page of the Five Minute Journal, the daily diary I use (read more about it here), is a quote.

The quote above was my quote today.

It couldn’t have been more fitting.

What to Do When You Don’t Feel Good Enough

Rejection is inevitable. But that doesn’t make it any easier to swallow.

Rationally, we understand it’s part of the process, the raw end of the deal.

And even though you know it’s coming at some point, you still feel blindsided when it does.

Stop Holding on to What’s Holding You Back

Is there something you’re holding onto that’s holding you back?

A fear? A mistake? A belief? 

Sadly, I’m holding onto various forms of all three, with each one taking its turn to feed the other two. 

My Wife Doesn’t Think I’m Masculine Enough

Given its high stakes and deep-rooted emotions, when a marriage falls out of balance, it can feel almost impossible to get it back in alignment.

But in this week’s advice column, one husband’s plight reveals how complicated problems often require simple solutions.

Death is the Greatest Reminder of Life

Earlier this week, on the sixteenth anniversary of 9/11, I wrote about why we should never forget the events of that horrific day, as they can serve as a reference point for life’s fragility.

Just a few days later, I’m worried I’ve already forgotten.