BRENT STOLLER

Writer. Advice giver. Peanut butter and chocolate enthusiast.

My Struggle to Build a Life-Changing Habit

Several years ago, when I was just getting started as a writer, I received one of the best pieces of advice from someone who already was one.

This guy, whom I viewed as a mentor of sorts, asked me rhetorically, “Why do you write? You write because you have something to say.”

Today, I have nothing to say. Yet here I am, writing anyway.

It’s OK to Go Through the Motions

In my dreams, I am a golden god. 

I am engaged, and enthusiastic, and eager to take on the day. And I spend every waking moment making the most of it. 

Of course, in my reality, I am anything but.

I Prefer Monogamy, But I Don’t Want to Miss Out on Being Single

A different girl every night.

That’s the single guy’s dream, right?

For many, yes.

But it wasn’t for me. And it isn’t for this advice-seeker.

Why I’m Terrified to Answer the Phone

What’s wrong? Did something happen? Is everything OK?

These are the questions that consume me when my wife calls at a time she shouldn’t be calling.

I’m Trying to Build an Audience, But I’m Doing It All Wrong

“I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it.”

At the top of each page of the Five Minute Journal, the daily diary I use (read more about it here), is a quote.

The quote above was my quote today.

It couldn’t have been more fitting.