BRENT STOLLER

Writer. Advice giver. Peanut butter and chocolate enthusiast.

The Lessons I Learned as a Caddie

Caddie

In June 2013, I quit my job to caddie at Bandon Dunes Golf Resort. I did this for myriad reasons — for the golf, for the lingo, for Noonan — but mostly I did it in the spirit of Andy Dufresne: Get busy livin’, or get busy dyin’.

I was 35 and stuck, my life progressing too slowly as life passed me by too quickly. My hope was that this outside-the-box experience could work as a sort of accelerator for growth and accomplishment.

Somehow, it did.

Zihuatanejo

Shawshank Redemption

Here are the facts: I’m 35 years old. I love golf, and I love to write. I have a family that’s always there for me, and a beautiful girlfriend who wants to spend the rest of her life with me. I have goals, I have dreams, and buried somewhere beneath all of my insecurities, I have an unshakable sense that I’m capable of achieving every last one of them.

And yet here I remain—stuck, standing in place, unable to move. So what can I do to change that?

The answer: Get busy livin’, or get busy dyin’.